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My Response to Ms. Fluke---the Anti Feminist

Amid all the “controversy” with Ms. Fluke, the Georgetown University grad student whom testified before Congress regarding her “rights” as a woman and the difficulty she has obtaining reproductive health care and Rush Limbaugh, I thought as a young woman myself I would add my two cents about what I think of Ms. Fluke and her position on “women’s rights.”

WARNING: The following remarks may lead to another Obama telephone call… us all.

I am a 26 year-old woman. I went to college and graduate school and was sexually active during these times.  Like Ms. Fluke, I also experienced the financial hardships of being a sexually active student. But unlike Ms. Fluke, I was able to readily solve this problem by taking ownership over my body and respecting myself by being in a relationship with a man that was responsible.  Here are some of the things we did while I was a student at Michigan State and the University of the District of Columbia Law School. Maybe Ms. Fluke can use these ideas to help combat the cost of her made-up $3,000 health care costs.

Condoms. Now, I know for a fact, as a former Resident Assistant, that every college campus has free condoms. I could go to my RA to get them, the local health clinic on campus, or planned parenthood. (Ms. Fluke, just so you know, there is a planned parenthood about four blocks from Georgetown University, you walk in and they have a bucket of condoms, they are free, use them). Also, as a student in the District, you can go to DC Council and obtain free condoms there as well.

Birth Control: Before I left for college my mother wanted me to get on the pill. She knew I had a boyfriend and that I wanted a future, so I got my pap smear and my year supply of birth control. After the first year, my sexual activity and my health was up to me, my grandparents and my mother made that perfectly clear. So after my first prescription ended I went to planned parenthood and obtained what they call a “starter pack.” You get a full year of birth control for $25.00 a month and I didn’t even have to get the pap smear!

My relationship: Yes, sometimes $25 bucks was a lot for a struggling student, but  I never paid the whole $25.00—call me feminist, but if I was going to be in a relationship and be sexually active, my boyfriend and I were both going to be responsible, so we split it! And even better, Ms. Fluke, if my boyfriend didn’t remind me to take my pill, we didn’t have sex. Crazy, I know! But I figured my body was my responsibility and if my man wasn’t on board with that then he wasn’t going to get my body at all.  Ms. Fluke, where is your man? Why are you allegedly paying $3,000 a year and your man isn’t contributing? That doesn’t sound too feminist to me! Instead of worrying about your “access” to contraception, maybe you should ponder as to why you would be in a relationship with a man, or sleeping with anyone, that does not seem concerned with your reproductive health or your future.

Now, I know this will shock you Ms. Fluke, but when times got hard financially we just didn’t have sex. I know it is a crazy concept, but I had this radical idea that if I abstained from sexual activity I could save money on my health care. Yes, it made life stressful at times, and of course I wanted the physical satisfaction that sexual intercourse brings, but as a woman, as an adult, I realized that this is part of growing up and that if I was mature enough to be sexually active than I was mature enough to NOT be sexually active.  Being an adult is hard, isn’t it?!


Tuition: Unlike Ms. Fluke, I was not privileged enough to afford a Georgetown University education. It amazes me that Ms. Fluke thinks the taxpayer should cover her birth control so she can attend one of the most expensive universities in the country. Ms. Fluke, if you switch schools, you would be able to afford your birth control, FYI.


Ms. Fluke, you testified that contraception is a woman’s rights issue; but I must have missed the part of your testimony on women’s personal responsibility over their bodies. This is where I get confused. See, liberal woman keep reminding me of our “rights” but I never hear  the subject of “responsibility” unless of course, it comes to attacking men and their child support payments or demanding they cover half of an abortion.

See, there is this funny thing about “rights” I don’t think you understand Ms. Fluke, and maybe it is because you are a privileged white woman (and therefore as a white person you can’t honestly think you are a victim of anything, now can you?), but when women did not have legal “rights” we were literally the property of men. Our husbands could rape us and we had no legal cause of action; our inheritance was taken from us; our dreams denied, and our control over our own bodies was held in the hands of men.  We had no choice if we got pregnant or not; “No” was not a communication tool to inform others that we did not want to have sex; and personal responsibility and accountability for our lives and our bodies was only something we could  dream of and only hope for our daughters and granddaughters.

Now, sadly, it seems you see “personal responsibility” and “accountability” as an insult to women, as an attack to our “rights” and as some third century masculine ideology created to enslave us. Really?

Ms. Fluke sadly thinks more like all those evil men denying women our constitutional rights than the women she claims to represent and look up to. Men in this time thought women were too simple, too naïve, too incompetent to have control over their own money, their own destiny, and of course their own bodies—so men had to be responsible for our own welfare—we just weren’t capable of doing it on our own.  This is what Ms. Fluke believes. She does not think women are capable of saying “no.” she does not think women are competent enough to plan for their own futures, make tough decisions, and have full autonomy over our bodies; and she definitely doesn’t think a woman has the brain power to plan her own reproductive destiny—she expects others (the taxpayer) to cover this for her (you know, us women thinking and planning may make us faint and all).

At this rate, Ms. Fluke will be the poster child as to why women shouldn’t be able to vote. I mean, if we can’t even keep our legs closed when we know money is tight, how can we be expected to use our brains to pick our leaders?


Ms. Fluke, with all due respect, you are a flake! You are a smart, capable woman, yes?  You learned at a very young age that if you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant or get infected with a sexually transmitted disease. You know the best way to ensure you don’t get pregnant or sick is to refrain from sexual activity. And you also know that women—like men—should be held 100% ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS!

 Why don’t you honor the women that came before you and exercise your reproductive rights by taking control of your OWN body and simply say “no” once in a while?  Instead of spreading your legs, spread your horizons and start practicing what you preach: woman’s rights AND responsibilities—because there is nothing feminist about expecting others’ to take care of you. There is no “right” to do whatever you want and have others pick up the tab; and there is no worse way to insult women than to testify before Congress demanding others take care of you because you are too lazy or entitled to do it yourself.

 Sorry, Ms. Fluke, I am a true feminist, I believe in individual rights and control over my own destiny; apparently this concept is foreign to you---which is a great argument for why you shouldn’t be sexually active at all. What is the problem exactly? Are you terrified of freedom? Are you terrified of taking ownership for the decisions in your life? Is it easier for you to blame Georgetown or the government for the obvious fact that you and your partner are not being responsible? Or is blaming Georgetown and the taxpayer a way for you to deflect from the fact your man doesn’t respect you enough  to help cover the cost of your reproductive health needs? Or maybe you are just more comfortable as property than a person, because property does not have to accountable, only persons do. Maybe you don’t’ want to be free at all, you just want to think you are. Regardless Ms. Fluke, do your fellow women a favor and stop victimizing yourself, the only victims here are the hard working men and women of this country who are now FORCED to pay for your perceived sense of entitlement. As a black woman taxpayer, don’t you think it is the antithesis of feminism to take my hard earned money because you and your man don’t want to pay for your “needs” yourself? I thought we had a movement in this country so I could work hard and determine my own future---I didn’t realize we fought so I could work hard so you could continue to act childish.

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Comment by Jodi Carroll on March 5, 2012 at 1:10pm

If we are going to talk about birth control as it relates to a woman's "health" (Julene), then why are we not talking about the serious health issues facing young women who do not use condoms and end up getting (and spreading) STDs?  The emotional, physical, and financial cost of the STDs associated with failure to use condoms should be a big topic with our young population. 

Moreover, it is absolutely not possible to believe that women are advocating these contraceptives to help with their fibroids (and yeast infections - the estrogen in oral contraceptives are known to be a cause of yeast infections, not a solution).  But even if they were, everybody else cannot be responsible for every woman's fibroids.  I love Shelby's message about a step in the wrong direction for femenism.  If I am going to claim to be strong enough to be equal, then I better be strong enough to take care of myself, too.

Comment by Jodi Carroll on March 5, 2012 at 2:14pm

@Julene - I do not need to read what she said, because I was watching her as she spoke.  Perhaps you have failed to read my post as well, as I stated that even if it were about other ailments, those ailments are not other people's responsibility either.  If I am going to claim to be strong enough to be equal (and I do), then I better be strong enough to take care of myself, too.  Only those who are truly disabled should be taken care of by others, and she is clearly not that - going to one of the most expensive universities in the nation.

Comment by Don Starr on March 5, 2012 at 5:57pm


If the physician explicitly prescribes a medication for a medically necessary reason, then there's little problem if it happens to have a *side effect* of preventing contraception (after all, many medications include such a possible side effect). If that's what you and Ms. Fluke are advocating, then you'll certainly have no objections if the wording of the "HHS contraception mandate" is changed to reflect such. That is, insurers should be required to cover only treatments and medications that are medically necessary. (For what it's worth: "I want to have sex but I don't want to get pregnant, and my boyfriend won't wear a condom" does not count as "medically necessary".)

As I understand it, most (if not all) methods of contraception (for women, at least) are covered by this mandate - not just those that have medical applications other than reducing the likelihood of pregnancy. Apart from reducing the likelihood of contraception, what are the medical applications of the IUD, the cervical cap, and spermicidal foam? I ask because those seem to be covered by this "mandate".

I suspect that people are not opposed to the mandate because it might require insurers to pay for hormonal therapies whose applications go beyond preventing pregnancy. They're opposed to the mandate because it requires payment for devices, medications, and treatments that are expressly intended for contraception or which have no other medical purpose.

Comment by Nicole Miller on March 5, 2012 at 6:27pm

I think all you house n*****s on this site need to go back to the field and call the white man massa.

Comment by Brian McGrath on March 5, 2012 at 6:58pm
Nicole Miller, I am at a loss to understand your reply and use of what I can only believe to be inflammatory slang, what is your point ?
What a shame.
Comment by Erin Platt on March 5, 2012 at 7:29pm

"Comment by Nicole Miller54 minutes ago           

I think all you house n*****s on this site need to go back to the field and call the white man massa."


Uh, house "n*****s"  didn't work in the field, stupid.  Peple like you are the reason Democrats cannot get elected and stay elected.  Why don't you just make a donation to the RNC, fool?

Comment by Erin Platt on March 5, 2012 at 7:32pm

"So what you are saying Jodi is that, as a strong woman, you and other women like yourself, are able to pay for medical and health care expenses without health care coverage?"


Who cares what Jodi said?  What did Shelby say?  There are PLENTY of places for women to get affordable contraceptives.  Here is your chance to give Planned Parenthood a boost, and (as usual) Democrats and their voters are blowing it.  Stooping to the same fear and insane tactics that Republicans use.  Hook line and sink em...


"Democrats always lose to Republicans because they refuse to raise the bet"  David Mahmet

Comment by David C. Wilson on March 5, 2012 at 11:07pm
Awesome response!
Comment by Erin Platt on March 6, 2012 at 7:08am

"Awesome response!"


I am a Democrat from Chicago, David.  These responses from the liberals are so enraging!  I am a Progressive - and there is an enormous difference.  For example, since when do liberals support drug companies?  NEVER, unles it's for the pill. A pill that ruins little girls' pipes and makes it hard for women to have children later and alters their make-up.

And that "n*****s"  comment really pisses me off.  One, I am white, but so what?  Here in Chicago, being a "n*****" has nothing to do with race.  The person who made that comment should say it in the mirror.  And two - ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  We're also "foodies," and our hero is George Washington Carver.  The epitome of how the educated "house n*****" is our ulitmate American Dream.  The man's story reads like Moses! He was invited to the White House before he paved the way for Obama to be elected president, who then turned around and filled our FDA, USDA and Dept of Agriculture with a bunch of Monsanto hacks.  When Carver was asked why he wouldn't patent his inventions - he said, "God gave them to me to share and help others, how could I sell them to anyone else?"   


I'll say it again, "Democrats always lose to Republicans because they refuse to raise the bet"  David Mahmet

Comment by Jodi Carroll on March 6, 2012 at 9:17am

@ Julene - Yes, taking care of your own needs is called personal responsibility.  Taking care of yourself is what strong and independent people do.  I paid for EVERYTHING through my college years, everything, including a lot of dental care that I needed.  When I was in college, I worked at a job that provided health insurance that included oral contraceptive coverage.  There were a few brief times when I was uninsured during that time period, at which point I paid out of pocket until I became insured again.  I paid with my own earned money - how is that concept so awful to consider.  If I had been unable to afford my birth control pills - through MY OWN JOB - during my short periods of being uninsured, then I would have had to have a) chosen condoms, b) gotten a second job to boost my income, or c) find a job that covered what I needed.  But the problem, and the solution, were MY responsibility, not others.   

On that note, I do not advocate private insurance cover all the stuff.  I advocated actually bringing the costs of health care down, and bringing the cost of premiums down, so people would more easily be able to afford to buy the basics themselves and keep their own health insurance for big stuff because it had become affordable.  Unfortunately, what we got is more expensive health care, higher premiums, and an even worse mess in the future waiting to happen.  The mandates drive up costs for all of us.  Direct primary care reduces costs, significantly.

Here is but one example:

"For an anecdote- Several years ago a woman came to our practice for the first time- her husband had left her and dropped her health insurance the same day (and her 16 year old son’s too). She was diabetic and could not afford any insurance due to this preexisting condition. Her first year after he left, she told me she spend about $5000 on medical care. This consisted of an annual exam and 4 follow-up visits for her diabetes including blood work, office visits, an EKG, and ancillaries. She had worked about 60-80 hours per week at two retail jobs in that interim year and could still barely afford her care and medication. Then she found us. When she arrived her HGBA1C was 11.9- meaning very poorly controlled. One year later- her A1C was 6.8 (well controlled) and she had only spent about $450 for an entire year of care with us- including the annual physical, all of her follow-up visits, all of her lab work and ancillaries. As she told NPR in an interview a few years ago “We were a God send for her.”


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