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My Response to Ms. Fluke---the Anti Feminist

Amid all the “controversy” with Ms. Fluke, the Georgetown University grad student whom testified before Congress regarding her “rights” as a woman and the difficulty she has obtaining reproductive health care and Rush Limbaugh, I thought as a young woman myself I would add my two cents about what I think of Ms. Fluke and her position on “women’s rights.”

WARNING: The following remarks may lead to another Obama telephone call… us all.

I am a 26 year-old woman. I went to college and graduate school and was sexually active during these times.  Like Ms. Fluke, I also experienced the financial hardships of being a sexually active student. But unlike Ms. Fluke, I was able to readily solve this problem by taking ownership over my body and respecting myself by being in a relationship with a man that was responsible.  Here are some of the things we did while I was a student at Michigan State and the University of the District of Columbia Law School. Maybe Ms. Fluke can use these ideas to help combat the cost of her made-up $3,000 health care costs.

Condoms. Now, I know for a fact, as a former Resident Assistant, that every college campus has free condoms. I could go to my RA to get them, the local health clinic on campus, or planned parenthood. (Ms. Fluke, just so you know, there is a planned parenthood about four blocks from Georgetown University, you walk in and they have a bucket of condoms, they are free, use them). Also, as a student in the District, you can go to DC Council and obtain free condoms there as well.

Birth Control: Before I left for college my mother wanted me to get on the pill. She knew I had a boyfriend and that I wanted a future, so I got my pap smear and my year supply of birth control. After the first year, my sexual activity and my health was up to me, my grandparents and my mother made that perfectly clear. So after my first prescription ended I went to planned parenthood and obtained what they call a “starter pack.” You get a full year of birth control for $25.00 a month and I didn’t even have to get the pap smear!

My relationship: Yes, sometimes $25 bucks was a lot for a struggling student, but  I never paid the whole $25.00—call me feminist, but if I was going to be in a relationship and be sexually active, my boyfriend and I were both going to be responsible, so we split it! And even better, Ms. Fluke, if my boyfriend didn’t remind me to take my pill, we didn’t have sex. Crazy, I know! But I figured my body was my responsibility and if my man wasn’t on board with that then he wasn’t going to get my body at all.  Ms. Fluke, where is your man? Why are you allegedly paying $3,000 a year and your man isn’t contributing? That doesn’t sound too feminist to me! Instead of worrying about your “access” to contraception, maybe you should ponder as to why you would be in a relationship with a man, or sleeping with anyone, that does not seem concerned with your reproductive health or your future.

Now, I know this will shock you Ms. Fluke, but when times got hard financially we just didn’t have sex. I know it is a crazy concept, but I had this radical idea that if I abstained from sexual activity I could save money on my health care. Yes, it made life stressful at times, and of course I wanted the physical satisfaction that sexual intercourse brings, but as a woman, as an adult, I realized that this is part of growing up and that if I was mature enough to be sexually active than I was mature enough to NOT be sexually active.  Being an adult is hard, isn’t it?!


Tuition: Unlike Ms. Fluke, I was not privileged enough to afford a Georgetown University education. It amazes me that Ms. Fluke thinks the taxpayer should cover her birth control so she can attend one of the most expensive universities in the country. Ms. Fluke, if you switch schools, you would be able to afford your birth control, FYI.


Ms. Fluke, you testified that contraception is a woman’s rights issue; but I must have missed the part of your testimony on women’s personal responsibility over their bodies. This is where I get confused. See, liberal woman keep reminding me of our “rights” but I never hear  the subject of “responsibility” unless of course, it comes to attacking men and their child support payments or demanding they cover half of an abortion.

See, there is this funny thing about “rights” I don’t think you understand Ms. Fluke, and maybe it is because you are a privileged white woman (and therefore as a white person you can’t honestly think you are a victim of anything, now can you?), but when women did not have legal “rights” we were literally the property of men. Our husbands could rape us and we had no legal cause of action; our inheritance was taken from us; our dreams denied, and our control over our own bodies was held in the hands of men.  We had no choice if we got pregnant or not; “No” was not a communication tool to inform others that we did not want to have sex; and personal responsibility and accountability for our lives and our bodies was only something we could  dream of and only hope for our daughters and granddaughters.

Now, sadly, it seems you see “personal responsibility” and “accountability” as an insult to women, as an attack to our “rights” and as some third century masculine ideology created to enslave us. Really?

Ms. Fluke sadly thinks more like all those evil men denying women our constitutional rights than the women she claims to represent and look up to. Men in this time thought women were too simple, too naïve, too incompetent to have control over their own money, their own destiny, and of course their own bodies—so men had to be responsible for our own welfare—we just weren’t capable of doing it on our own.  This is what Ms. Fluke believes. She does not think women are capable of saying “no.” she does not think women are competent enough to plan for their own futures, make tough decisions, and have full autonomy over our bodies; and she definitely doesn’t think a woman has the brain power to plan her own reproductive destiny—she expects others (the taxpayer) to cover this for her (you know, us women thinking and planning may make us faint and all).

At this rate, Ms. Fluke will be the poster child as to why women shouldn’t be able to vote. I mean, if we can’t even keep our legs closed when we know money is tight, how can we be expected to use our brains to pick our leaders?


Ms. Fluke, with all due respect, you are a flake! You are a smart, capable woman, yes?  You learned at a very young age that if you have unprotected sex you can get pregnant or get infected with a sexually transmitted disease. You know the best way to ensure you don’t get pregnant or sick is to refrain from sexual activity. And you also know that women—like men—should be held 100% ACCOUNTABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS!

 Why don’t you honor the women that came before you and exercise your reproductive rights by taking control of your OWN body and simply say “no” once in a while?  Instead of spreading your legs, spread your horizons and start practicing what you preach: woman’s rights AND responsibilities—because there is nothing feminist about expecting others’ to take care of you. There is no “right” to do whatever you want and have others pick up the tab; and there is no worse way to insult women than to testify before Congress demanding others take care of you because you are too lazy or entitled to do it yourself.

 Sorry, Ms. Fluke, I am a true feminist, I believe in individual rights and control over my own destiny; apparently this concept is foreign to you---which is a great argument for why you shouldn’t be sexually active at all. What is the problem exactly? Are you terrified of freedom? Are you terrified of taking ownership for the decisions in your life? Is it easier for you to blame Georgetown or the government for the obvious fact that you and your partner are not being responsible? Or is blaming Georgetown and the taxpayer a way for you to deflect from the fact your man doesn’t respect you enough  to help cover the cost of your reproductive health needs? Or maybe you are just more comfortable as property than a person, because property does not have to accountable, only persons do. Maybe you don’t’ want to be free at all, you just want to think you are. Regardless Ms. Fluke, do your fellow women a favor and stop victimizing yourself, the only victims here are the hard working men and women of this country who are now FORCED to pay for your perceived sense of entitlement. As a black woman taxpayer, don’t you think it is the antithesis of feminism to take my hard earned money because you and your man don’t want to pay for your “needs” yourself? I thought we had a movement in this country so I could work hard and determine my own future---I didn’t realize we fought so I could work hard so you could continue to act childish.

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Comment by shakurmind on March 6, 2012 at 10:59pm

"Ms. Fluke, where is your man?" Wow!!! How arrogant!!!! Excuse me Ms. Emmitt, but did you or did you not MARRY that boyfriend only to find out that HE was irresponsible, childish, and unemployable....yet, he would and STILL visits you in DC? Talk about calling the kettle black!!!

Comment by Erin Platt on March 7, 2012 at 7:11am

"Birth control should be like middle ground for the pro life and the pro choice communties"


The bottom line is, both parties are using this as a wedge issue for politics, and the media enables it.  That's why Rush Limbaugh's comments are all over the news - and what Shelby said is not.  Every election is Republicans pretending they care about babies - and Democrats pretending they care about women.  They don't care about any of us....

Comment by Kenneth McClenton on March 9, 2012 at 11:22am

This is the exact plan of the Obama Administration: Divide and Conquer. The First attack was on separating loyal listeners of a conservative entertainer from his narrative. To this, I say, "Never Let anyone control your narrative!"The second attack was on the First Amendment in which the administration wish to separate parishioners from their priests on the issues of religious liberty and contraceptives. The third attack was on those purporting Personhood Legislation as a means of overcoming Roe v Wade on the grounds that Republicans want to take away the natural rights of women to care for their bodies. The fourth attack is on class and caste. The administration must have the poor at the throats of the rich and blue collar workers fighting white collar workers in order to masked their economic failings and be seen as the voice of reason amidst the tempest of debate. Finally, the Administration needs a gender divide in order to win re election. The women must attack the men. The simplest and most prudent retort to all of this is: sex within marriage is preferred however, any couple that seeks to engage in sexual activity must first take personal responsibility to count the costs of their actions upon themselves, a potential child and society. If they are unable to afford the physical, emotional and fiscal responsibilities for engaging in such a private matter then, it is prudent that each walks away for the risks to be incurred. If a couple can not afford $0.73 for three minutes of pleasure then, in no way should the public take on this private responsibility. I REFUSE TO LET OBAMA CONTROL MY NARRATIVE!

Comment by Nicole Miller on March 10, 2012 at 6:55am

To Kenneth McClenton, Please tell me what the republican narrative is? They don't want women to have abortions. They don't want taxpayer's money to take care of children that parents cannot afford. And now they don't want women to have access to birth control. What do they stand for? Do they believe in fairy tales? Everybody should be married before they have sex. No child should be born unless parents can support the child. That's nice but that is certainly a dream. The real world says that people will have extramarital sex and babies will be the result.Now what are you going to do? I say provide birth control for anybody who BELIEVE they cannot afford it. (Personally, I think birth control is cheap. Believe it or not, some convenience stores sell condoms for 25 cents a piece)  Please allow my tax money to pay for birth as oppose to paying for somebody's child for 18 years.

Comment by Kenneth McClenton on March 10, 2012 at 3:57pm

To Nicole "I think all you house n*****s on this site need to go back to the field and call the white man massa" Miller.  I am honored that you think that I am such a powerful Voice of Liberty that our nation's Republican Party would choose me their symbolic spokesperson. Many "independents" have been influenced by columnist David Frum's assertions that "Rush Limbaugh is the Figurehead of the Republican Party".  Hence, I will accept your humbling offer a healthy critique.  I pray that the Republican Party would be wise enough to follow your lead.  I doubt they will. However, as a Conservative, I respond.  The US Constitution has been usurped by the Democrat Party and Republicans like current Senators Susan Collins and Olympia Snowe and former Senator Arlean Spector.  Their votes either out of Committees and on the Senate Floor helped pass the Patient Protection and Affordable Care Act (PPACA).  This Act usurped the Tenth Amendment Rights of States to make a determination on contraceptives because all such health care decisions rest in the powers of the Secretary of Health and Human Services at the Federal level.  Hence, the substance of the debate is heinously irrelevant.  Unless you wish to enforce your new found powers on private secular and religious entities.  Doing so enlists two truths: one, PPACA is the forerunner of socialized medicine in the US and two, for many, the value of liberty is now confined to a "rubber".  For those following along at home, this means that the only person that has the power to speak to whether you get a "rubber" in your stocking is Obama.  Hence, it is mere folly to assert that Republicans do not want you to carry the pill in your purse.  What do they stand for? Do they believe in fairy tales? It is always good to refer to the Party's Platform to determine what one stands for and if the myths and fairy tales of man exceed the Wisdom and Truth of God.  After reviewing each, I have come to believe that Democrats are closer to the myths and fairy tales of man and Republicans are closer to the Wisdom and Truth of God.  After reading Frederick Douglas' Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass: An American Slave and K. Carl Smith's Frederick Douglass Republicans, I believe I stand in good company on this conviction.  Everybody should be married before they have sex. This is what many wise people subscribe to as a prudent principle of life.  Procreation is a process that symbolizes the original relationship of Adam and woman in producing the first child per the Holy Book of Genesis.  It is a wisdom that I have followed and taught.  The Free Dictionary speaks: "The relationship between parent and child is of fundamental importance to U.S. society, because it preserves the safety and provides for the nurture of dependent individuals."  I firmly believe that dependent individuals in the case of our debate should remain abstinent and independent individuals should not seek dependency on government as a means of supporting their private choices.  Again, Republicans appear closer to the Wisdom and Truth and Democrats closer to myths and fairy tales of Utopia.  No child should be born unless parents can support the child.  I know the One that is Omniscient, Omnipotent and Pre-Eminent and His name is not Obama.  I place my Faith in God. I know that He will provide for all of His children.  He has given us the models of family and Kingdom to follow in meeting the needs of every child including the One born of a teenage mother betrothed to a Carpenter in Israel.  Only a false leader of a fabled party would lend one the myth that a "rubber" or a "pill" will stop the God ordained process of procreation. Only a confused individual believes that a political leader stimulating the bedrooms of America with contraceptives will eradicate children born in poverty or wealth, health or sick

Comment by Kenneth McClenton on March 10, 2012 at 4:15pm

To Nicole "I think all you house n*****s on this site need to go back to the field and call the white man massa" Miller [Continued]

sickness or orphaned or parented.  Finally, Please allow my tax money to pay for birth as oppose to paying for somebody's child for 18 years.  While the US has sent a man to the moon, we have not as yet created a system that would separate tax revenue at the point of receipt and disseminate the spending based on individual preference of social and fiscal desire.  However, I suggest that you and Warren Buffet stand outside of Walgreen and write $3,000 checks to persons that BELIEVE that they can not afford contraceptives.  Where I lack in social compassion, I am quite certain that you all will make up for in personal earned income!

Comment by shakurmind on March 11, 2012 at 1:57am

Wow!!! you people are really insensitive!!! Where did you put your Bible today? Is it in the trunk of you car waiting to be pulled out when you choose to be "religious" on Sunday? Shame on everyone who has jumped on this bandwagon. You are smaller in thinking than I have imagined. While the professionalism of the response is VERY good, the prose is AWFULLY wrong...especially coming from a woman's perspective. I choose not to curse anyone but I am a FIRM believer that "time and space catches up to everyone". 


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